C.M. asked me this question the other day while we were having a discussion. "Have you EVER been in a healthy relationship? Do you know what one is??" As I give him a blank stare and tears roll down my face, I try and think of what a healthy relationship is.....
The answer??? No. I haven't. I don't even know if I really KNOW anyone that has one. Is healthy the same as perfect? Does healthy mean you don't fight? Does it mean you trust 100%? Being in destructive relationships in the past, it is like having to learn how to ride a bicycle all over again. I think that trust is something you earn, not something that is given to you. Is that an unhealthy response?
So tell me, what is your idea of a "healthy" relationship?? Do you think that you have one?? Do men have a different perspective on what a healthy relationship is than women do?
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Just my opinion on the trust aspect of it...
I gave T my trust. I didn't hold him accountable to my past, exes, or anyone else. It is then up to him what he does with it. He will either do things that strengthen or dissolve it. But it will be because of what he does--or doesn't do.
As for the healthy relationship part of it. I don't think ANY relationship is perfect; but I think it can be healthy. I don't have time to elaborate. But, there ya go. =)
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